Work at Great Relationships
Saturday 7th January 2017
‘…People who work for peace… plant a good crop of right-living…’ James 3:18 NCV
If you are serious about making good friends, do the following:
(1) Put others first. ‘Serve [others] wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men’ (Ephesians 6:7 NIV). If you serve God by serving others, you can’t go wrong. (2) Be happy to serve. One airline executive explained: ‘Service is the only thing we have to sell, but it’s the toughest thing to teach because nobody wants to be thought of as a servant.’ (3) Chuck out any emotional baggage. If someone hurt you and you need to deal with it, do it right away. If it’s not worth bringing up, forget it and move on. Ask God to help you. (4) Invest in your most valuable relationships. Think about who you hang out with the most. The Bible says that who you relate to moulds your character and ultimately your choices and destiny. (5) Constantly express your appreciation. Tell the people you care about how much you love them – a lot! Too many of us think that the best way to help is to criticise or give ‘our thoughts on the matter.’ Wrong! The best way to help others is to see the best in them. Practice the 101 percent principle: look for one thing to admire, then give them 100 percent encouragement for it.
So what now? Making and maintaining relationships requires consistent work – work that comes with the reward of good friends. ‘…People who work for peace… plant a good crop of right-living…’ (James 3:18 NCV).